I've always been easy going and nice.
But the last two months I've been short with my kids and speak my mind (ie say my opinion). After doing these things, I feel badly that I might have hurt someone's feelings.
I'm not stressed nor do I have a brain tumour (just got my MRI results back). I'm not sure why my personality has changed. Is it that now I'm 32 I don't care what others think of me? But I actually do. I'm single so want people to think positively about me. I also want to get along with my co-workers.
Any suggestions why I'm so short tempered?
How do I return to being my nice self?
Thanks!
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revjohn
Posted on: 11/07/2013 18:11
Hi Sterton,
Any suggestions why I'm so short tempered?
I don't know you.
And even if I did that is the kind of question I would answer without body armour of somekind.
You might want to explore your life for any significant changes to routine. Also note it is late October early November and studies indicate that this time of year is difficult for many emotionally.
Grace an dpeace to you.
John
Wolfie
Posted on: 11/07/2013 19:17
This could be a symptom of Depression, talk about it with your doctor. They will ask you about other symptoms if you have them and to what degree. Anger at people who havnen't given you a reason to be angry is one sign of depression. There is seasonal depression and then there is clinical depression and these can be treated.
Seasonal depression can be treated with a multi-spectrum light. You can get those light bulbs at usually any store. And meds from a doctor will help. I know someone that suffers from depression.
(>-.-)> *Peace* ~ Beyond ~ *Peace* <(-.-<)
Wolfie
mrs.anteater
Posted on: 11/07/2013 18:39
Hormons?
Sterton
Posted on: 11/07/2013 18:41
Thanks Rev John & Wolfie :)
I never thought about depression (my mom is on meds for it). I cry at the drop of a hat as well. I definitely should go have a chat with my doctor.
Beloved
Posted on: 11/07/2013 18:49
First off - checking out whether there is a physical, emotional, or hormonal reason for such a personality change.
If nothing can be detected (and you might have to investigate for a long time) then you might need to determine why you are allowing yourself to act in such a way instead of finding a way to deal with things differently.
carolla
Posted on: 11/07/2013 20:24
Yes - depression can certainly present as major irritability - that 'want to rip your face off' growling & snarling kind of thing. I've been there - got treatment - wow, much better!
Nothing wrong with speaking your mind - done in an assertive manner, not agressive; sometimes the pendulum swings too far & coming back to centre is the key - respect for yourself & others. Maybe all the way back to your 'nice self' isn't a necessary goal - but finding a new zone of healthy communication. It will no doubt take others some time to adjust to any changes you do decide to make, but stay your course.
carolla
Posted on: 11/07/2013 20:26
another thought - I recall you had that nasty rash for a while - are you any meds for it now? sometimes meds (especially steriods such as prednisone) can cause irritability, sleep difficulty, problems concentrating, mood changes.
chemgal
Posted on: 11/07/2013 21:12
Being itchy can do that too. Just ask Chemguy when I had to be off all my allergy meds for a few days :) What happens when you put a 'B' in front of itchy? Coincidence? I think not
Sterton
Posted on: 11/07/2013 21:27
Sorry Mrs. Anteater: didn't see your suggestion. We must have posted at the same time: ha ha.
Beloved: I'm not actually "allowing myself" to snap at everyone. It just happens. It never used to. :(
Carolla: Yes I had no idea depression was like that. Glad you are doing much better. I plan to return to my sweet self. My skin is so much better. Ironically when I stopped doing the salve it cleared up: ha ha. Yes I was thinking of how I stopped a bunch of meds that maybe this is what happened. Who knows. But I think I was on prednisone at one point. Hmmm...
Either way, I saw my doctor tonight...she has a drop in clinic on Thursday nights. I just told her how short tempered I am then I started to cry. It was so odd. She definitely thinks I'm depressed. Who knew! She gave me a prescription for meds and a S.A.D. Light. Here's hoping in 5-7 days I'm back to my super nice self :)
Thanks everyone!
Sterton
Posted on: 11/07/2013 21:28
Chemgal: Since I'm off my regular meds...perhaps.
Yes the doctor said people call them "Bitch Pills".
carolla
Posted on: 11/07/2013 21:42
sterton - great to hear you took such prompt action! (and that your rash cleared up!) Just to be realistic - many anti-depressants do take up to several weeks of daily use to show effectiveness - and even then the dose is sometimes adjusted upward a time or two until max effectiveness is achieved. So be patient - I think you've taken an important step :-)
chemgal
Posted on: 11/07/2013 21:57
I know you said the skin was better, but glad to hear it's pretty much gone!
Hopefully your mood will soon match :)
waterfall
Posted on: 11/07/2013 22:14
Hi Sterton, sorry to hear you're going through this, hopefully it won't last long.
If it's not too personal, are you having irregular or missed periods?
Sterton
Posted on: 11/08/2013 06:37
Carolla: good to know! Othewise that would make me more sad: ha ha.
Chemgal: it's still there but so much better :) I can see my actual skin.
Watefall: always do.
waterfall
Posted on: 11/08/2013 07:49
Premature menopause?
Sterton
Posted on: 11/08/2013 21:05
Ha ha probably not :)
waterfall
Posted on: 11/09/2013 00:01
Ha ha probably not :)
ah well, you did ask for suggestions. :)
Premature menopause occurs in 1 out of 100 women between the ages of 30-39
and 1 out of every 1000 between the ages of 15-29.
chansen
Posted on: 11/09/2013 12:54
Wrong thread. D'oh.
Sterton
Posted on: 11/09/2013 12:58
Waterfall: good to know!
Pilgrims Progress
Posted on: 11/20/2013 17:26
Sterton,
When reading your post I thought of something that Australian psychologist Dorothy Rowe said about depression.
"Most of my depression clients are very nice people - and that has a lot to do with their depression."
In my experience there is a lot of truth in this....
We are all unique, and our inner most need is to be authentic - to be ourselves.
I sympathise with your unhappiness at hurting another's feelings.
I was raised to believe that this was the worst thing anyone could do. But, as my therapist pointed out, there is an unspoken message that it's also "awful" if someone hurts your feelings. (and this is involved in depression).
The reality is that in close relationships in particular, some degree of hurt in inevitable - and part of relating to another.
Perhaps, even though you feel uncomfortable, this change is a positive sign?
Aim for being authentic, rather than nice. (And, as carolla says, work at being assertive, rather than aggressive).
My hunch, from my own experience, is that you'll feel happier for being more authentic, and the need to lash out will fade.......
Sterton
Posted on: 11/22/2013 22:12
Thanks Pilgrim Progress :)
jon71
Posted on: 02/24/2014 10:37
There are so many possibilities. The first things to do is to see a doctor and check medical aspects as thoroughly as possible and the other thing to do is pray. Also, I have been on prednisone before and I did get irritable and short tempered on it. You've probably heard of "roid rage", prednisone is a steriod and I'm telling you first hand it has that effect. Whatever it is I hope you get it worked out.
Sterton
Posted on: 02/26/2014 22:52
Thanks jon71!
I was on depression meds for a month's trial but after going off, within the first five minutes of work I told off three people: ha ha.
So now I have a year's subscription: so far so good :)