don_t fit the mold
Is a happily ever after a myth?
Posted on: 07/14/2010 21:41
Of all the couples I know, there is only one relationship that is healthy and going strong. Everyone, I mean every one, even those perfect couples you see here and there have huge skeletons in their closets. Divorce is not very common in my circle but most of these couples are so bitter/miserable/indiferent to each other that it seems like the only secret to a long term marriage is putting blinders on or lowering your expectations.
Is the happy 50-60 year old marriage just a myth?
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mrs.anteater
Posted on: 07/18/2010 08:05
Hi DFTM,
You might want to post this under discussions to get more answers.
I have to agree, unfortunately, with you.
Working in the hospital I see a lot of families and couples. I am most impressed by those committed relationships when he takes care of her, who has cancer or dementia and shows up every day, doing her care, holding her hand. I would like to know how their relationship has been in their middle ages.
Then there is the ugly ones, where you know they should have divorced long ago and now one of them is sick and all the other cares about is how to avoid spending money on their care needs.
I think that movies and novels are creating an expectation on parterships that are unrealistic. Lowering expectations might be a good way to go.
don_t fit the mold
Posted on: 07/18/2010 21:37
oooops! It's not under discussion?! I'm new at this, so I thought that's what I had done. I'll figure it out eventually. Thank you for the input. I agree, the media does not often portray what it's really like. Believe me, my version of Cinderella to my daughter will definetly have an alternate ending! LOL!!
Bauknighttrista
Posted on: 09/10/2010 00:41
I have to agree, unfortunately, with you.
Working in the hospital I see a lot of families and couples. I am most impressed by those committed relationships when he takes care of her, who has cancer or dementia and shows up every day, doing her care, holding her hand.