jensamember
Communication
Posted on: 10/20/2009 22:07
Blog deux!
I am a communicator...I always have been....pretty sure I always will be...I have a great communicative relationship with my mom...and with my children. I talk to my mom everyday...my kids who are in highschool still call me at work after school...I thought this was everyone's 'normal'.
The trouble I am having is being open to people who don't roll that way...I think they (some men) think of it as a control issue...or a lack of trust...most likely from the way they were raised??...to me, communication...by which I mean, a 'good morning'...'how is your day going'...or a 'thinking of you'...type if message, text or phone call...means you care...is it really that much to ask?? How can that be taking as 'I need to know where you are, who you are with and when your coming home'???....just an observation.
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SG
Posted on: 10/29/2009 16:45
I am a verbal communicator, or I run at the mouth (depends who is asked).
My need to talk, touch base, has been misinterpretted. An ex said that at first she thought I might be "clingy" (ick).
I was lucky enough to meet a kindred spirit. A call to say "I got here" did not mean anyone was accounting for their wherabouts. It meant "I got here" and maybe an added "I love you" or an "I miss you" or even "I know we were fighting but I still want you to know I am safe", etc.
She calls when she gets to work. I call when I leave the house and when I get back. She calls when she is leaving work.
We email and IM and people may initially think it is control or jealousy and they end up thinking it is sweet or teasing that we are like a couple that just started dated instead of having been together 10 years.
You will have to communicate who you are, why you are that way, what it means to you.... and then hope they get it.
jensamember
Posted on: 10/29/2009 18:24
Thank you StevieG for both your comments!....I should say thank you for reading my entries! lol!
I think the right person will get it...I'm new to dating in general and I don't want to seem or appear needy...I am far from that! lol!...and it's definately not a control thing either...I just want to be imortant to someone...I should say did want to...my mom and I just bought a house together so I think I am gonna settle in and evaluate me...I think I may have another blog to write!!
Thanks again :)