How ought we be together as Christians?  How should we relate to each other?

I think we mostly all know the answers, though we drop the ball on living it out.  Not to go all Bible-quote-dropping, but I really like Jesus' formula:  If someone upsets you, go talk to them first in private. If you can't work it out, bring a friend or two.  If you still can't sort it out, bring Church elders.  After all that is done, then you can call them up for public discipline. (Matt  18:15-17)

Why is it that in churches we are tempted to skip the first step, even the first two?  I know why, because it's hard. It's one of my personal growing edges, but I know it is really important.  Just say no to triangles !!  :)