First I haven't changed my username to better reflect my gender identity because I am not out with my son and he is often over my shoulder checking out what I am posting or reading.  If I were to change it, I would change it to someboi.

I have mentioned to a couple of people that I planned to speak to my husband about how I feel about my gender while my son was at camp.  I didn't know how he would react so I wanted to choose a time when his emotional state would not interfere with work, driving or parenting.  I didn't get a chance to talk to him until last night (Somekid was home on friday).  He doesn't get it completely but he really does seem okay with it as far as his understanding goes. 

We talked about what would be acceptable to him as far as my behavior goes.  He is not gay and he would not be able to stay with me if I were to take steps towards a physical transition such as testoterone shots, going out in 'drab' or surgery.  He also doesn't want me to shave my head or get my hair cut shorter than it is right now.  He has agreed to treat me like his man at least some of the time and even helped me with my male name, James (I gave him a choice between that and Jack).  I think that it might still be a bumpy road here and there but I am so relieved that we have taken this step as it has been on my mind for a long time and there didn't seem to be a right time to bring it up.