It is never right to hit a child. They are no lesser than us adults and it is wrong to hit an adult, why would we even think it is ok to hit a child. It only leads to disrespect. A child will respect an adult more who does not hit. I am a mom
sitka
Posted on: 04/19/2009 14:53
trisdihdzere wrote:
I want to hear if you think it is right to hit a child. If it is, what justifies it and if you are against it, why????
I grew up thinking to get a hiding is okay. But hitting a child is not okay. Why? It hurts...
On the other hand: not all hitting is in the same class. With an object? Flat hand? On the buttocks? Hard or soft?
It is possible to discipline without hitting...but sometimes...just sometimes...a hiding my protect one because it is one way to communicate an important point...
Why do you ask? Did somebody hit you? Or are you just testing opinions? Stirring?
yummymummy
Posted on: 04/20/2009 06:45
I was brought up with spankings and such, and i believe that it led to some deep-rooted psychological problems including unhealthy agression and anger-management, feelings of rebellion towards authority and mistrust in people. My parents were never even excessive, they just used spanking with anger. It wasn't about punishment, it was them losing control and resorting to physical means for punishment. And they had it WAY worse growing up, and neither one of them deals with conflict or adversity in a healthy way. I am against hitting a child because it sets the belief in their minds that if I do something wrong, then that gives others the right to hurt me. And if someone does something to me, that gives me the right to hurt them. This isn't the way it is in the real world. In the real world, that's abuse and it's a criminal offense. It also tells them that they don't have to use words to solve problems, and they don't develop the ability to.
sitka
Posted on: 04/20/2009 12:17
Yummymummy is correct. Hitting leaves long term scars. Communicating by mouth is a better way. yet words can also inflict long term injury.
Anger stands in the way of effective disciplining? Hitting with the hand or a lashing tongue...both bad instruments...when you are angry and loose self control.
Melchizedek
Posted on: 04/20/2009 17:39
First of all: spanking is only 'hitting' if you think that the cop who pulls you over for speeding is setting out to damage your self-esteem.
The 'other' side of the argument is that children (who become auto-centric extended-adolescent adults) who persist in thinking that the world revolves around their beligerent self-interest should have been required to attend the 'I'll-give-you-something-to-whine-about' daycare.
At the university where I work, we are awash with babies whose introduction to the first parameters set by the outside world (outside their coddling mommies) is when the professor doesn't think the sun shines out of the same arse which could have used a few 'tune-ups'.
(Note: Our church's self-esteem group is asked to use the back door for this week's therapy session. If the door is closed...relax..it's not about you...the door is actually there as a parameter and boundary - something you may not have been introduced to in your coddled youth.)
Rebeccabecca
Posted on: 04/26/2009 15:00
Done the right way it does work. Spanking is not beating though. If you don't have a off switch to anger you can't use it as a way to help the child learn. Spanking has gotten a bad rap because people can't get over the fact that they were tought though tough love. Spanking doen't leave scars in normal people they get over it.If you haven't yet seek mental heath care as you might just have some issues that run deeper then spankings.
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un_201206132942
Posted on: 04/18/2009 10:39
It is never right to hit a child. They are no lesser than us adults and it is wrong to hit an adult, why would we even think it is ok to hit a child. It only leads to disrespect. A child will respect an adult more who does not hit. I am a mom
sitka
Posted on: 04/19/2009 14:53
I want to hear if you think it is right to hit a child. If it is, what justifies it and if you are against it, why????
I grew up thinking to get a hiding is okay. But hitting a child is not okay. Why? It hurts...
On the other hand: not all hitting is in the same class. With an object? Flat hand? On the buttocks? Hard or soft?
It is possible to discipline without hitting...but sometimes...just sometimes...a hiding my protect one because it is one way to communicate an important point...
Why do you ask? Did somebody hit you? Or are you just testing opinions? Stirring?
yummymummy
Posted on: 04/20/2009 06:45
I was brought up with spankings and such, and i believe that it led to some deep-rooted psychological problems including unhealthy agression and anger-management, feelings of rebellion towards authority and mistrust in people. My parents were never even excessive, they just used spanking with anger. It wasn't about punishment, it was them losing control and resorting to physical means for punishment. And they had it WAY worse growing up, and neither one of them deals with conflict or adversity in a healthy way. I am against hitting a child because it sets the belief in their minds that if I do something wrong, then that gives others the right to hurt me. And if someone does something to me, that gives me the right to hurt them. This isn't the way it is in the real world. In the real world, that's abuse and it's a criminal offense. It also tells them that they don't have to use words to solve problems, and they don't develop the ability to.
sitka
Posted on: 04/20/2009 12:17
Yummymummy is correct. Hitting leaves long term scars. Communicating by mouth is a better way. yet words can also inflict long term injury.
Anger stands in the way of effective disciplining? Hitting with the hand or a lashing tongue...both bad instruments...when you are angry and loose self control.
Melchizedek
Posted on: 04/20/2009 17:39
First of all: spanking is only 'hitting' if you think that the cop who pulls you over for speeding is setting out to damage your self-esteem.
The 'other' side of the argument is that children (who become auto-centric extended-adolescent adults) who persist in thinking that the world revolves around their beligerent self-interest should have been required to attend the 'I'll-give-you-something-to-whine-about' daycare.
At the university where I work, we are awash with babies whose introduction to the first parameters set by the outside world (outside their coddling mommies) is when the professor doesn't think the sun shines out of the same arse which could have used a few 'tune-ups'.
(Note: Our church's self-esteem group is asked to use the back door for this week's therapy session. If the door is closed...relax..it's not about you...the door is actually there as a parameter and boundary - something you may not have been introduced to in your coddled youth.)
Rebeccabecca
Posted on: 04/26/2009 15:00
Done the right way it does work. Spanking is not beating though. If you don't have a off switch to anger you can't use it as a way to help the child learn. Spanking has gotten a bad rap because people can't get over the fact that they were tought though tough love. Spanking doen't leave scars in normal people they get over it.If you haven't yet seek mental heath care as you might just have some issues that run deeper then spankings.