Mists, I don't know what to say.  Once you've gotten a bit of your venting out, go be with Jim.  I'm thinking of your whole family and am going to hug my husband a little longer when he gets in tomorrow.

Oh Mists-that is terrible news.

Time to make a new plan

Melanoma is nasty-

There may be some suregery-there may be some radiation...

There willl needs to be some time talking about what ifs, and what is important right now.

Hugs to all of you and may you feel the love of God and your friends and you walk this path.

Oh, I'm so  sorry to hear this. My prayers are with you and your family. 

M'dear, what upsetting news for you all........

This is such an important time for Jim, Rachel and yourself. A time to share your feelings - particularly your love for each other. Often we love, but don't put it into words - now is the time.

Keep on opening up to people, it will help give you the strength you need.

I'm so sorry.

Oh Mists - I am so sorry. I really don't know what to say. A tear is trickling down my cheek as I send my prayers and hugs across the country to you.

I'm so sorry to hear this Mists. Words can't express.  Praying for strength and hope and  courage for you and Jim and Rachel.

first of all... that is so unfair.  i'm so sorry to hear this.

i agree with tabitha... time to make a new plan.

did you ever watch 'ER'??  one of the doctors was diagnosed with inoperable brain cancer, and when his last days came, his wife took him and the kids to a private rental home in the carribean somewhere, where they could just be alone together.  that is where he finally passed away.

i always appreciated what happened there... they just KNEW that there was nothing more that anyone could say, and rather than plod through his last days surrounded by people who just didn't know what to say anymore, they just cloistered themselves.  it was exactly what needed to happen so that the family could come together that last time.

friends of mine did that as well last year when their 4 year old daughter succumbed to leukemia... they sent off a final email telling all their family and friends the news, and said that nobody was to call or visit... they KNEW that it was unfair, they KNEW that it was horrible.  and they wanted to spend her last month together.  it was EXACTLY the right thing to do.

i'd recommend that kind of thing to anyone in that situation... gather yourself, your husband, and your daughter together, and shut out the rest of the world now.  there isn't anything more important than this time...

no amount of money in the world will ever be able to buy back these next months, mists.

Hugs and prayers, mists, for you and JIm and Rachel.

I am so sorry to hear this.  Malignant melanoma is a bitch and we all hoped jim woudl be oone to conquer it.

Don't give up but also don't live unrealistically.  Get some honest hard answers from the docs.

and figure out what you , Jim and Rachel need now.  Let Jim be the decider of what he needs.

I am very sorry

Very sorry to learn of these latest developments, Mists.  Heartbreaking news for you, your daughter and family.

My husband had a tumour in his bowel, and by the time it was detected and surgically removed, the cancer had spread to his liver.  He was given 6 months, but lived for 10.

Chemotherapy didn't help.  We tried a natural remedy called Essiac...helped with the pain and digestive upsets.

We cherished our time together, and made the most of it.   I don't know what to say that can offer comfort,  other than I'm thinking of you and sending caring thoughts.

Mists, I'm so sorry to hear this. Today you are my inspiration to realize that every moment is precious and how important it is to be present in it.

My prayers include you and your family today.

i heard this song this morning, and it made me think of you, mists...

peace...

My prayers and thoughts are with you, Jim, and your families, Mists. If I'm in church on Sunday, I'll light a candle for you.

Mendalla

I'm sorry Mists! Prayers for Jim and you and your family!

I am so sorry hon.  

Stay strong and God will keep you and your family in caring arms.

Hello MistsOfSpring,

Grieving comes next.

I regret that it has come to this.

Every moment is now more precious than it will ever be if only because the limit of remaining moments is now so horribly clear.

I wish you, Jim and Rachel peace beyond peace and the relentless presence of the God who loves each of you with a tenderness and compassion without measure.

I am so sorry for the pain such news brings and the losses it will mean to the whole of your family and your world.

Grace and peace to you.

John

Mists I am so sorry to hear this news. I do agree that now is a time for you Jim and Rachel to be together as a loving living family. You and yours are in my thoughts.

Blessings and hugs

MistsOfSpring . . . thinking you, Jim, and Rachael at this most difficult time.  May you all receive much strength, hope, peace, and comfort.

((((((((((Mists, Jim, Rachel, family and friends))))))))))

This is such heartbreaking news.  It is so wonderful that you took time to share it with us, that you trusted the WC family to be gentle with you. At times like these I could wish for a magic wand that I could wave to make everything better - but alas, I don't.

I have not been in a similar space so I can't share advice about ways to cope - I can only hope that some real life friends come forth to provide you  with at least some of the help and support you deserve. 

Mists - my heart breaks for you.   Life ain't fair.   You didn't deserve this, nor did Jim, or Rachel.   Bad things happen.   May God comfort you and give you the strength to see this through.  

People have given good advice.  Now is the time for your little family to be together.  Please be kind to Jim's parents (I know they have given you a bad time - they are hurting).   But don't let them dominate your time together and with Rachel.  

Some of your time will have to be spent on details.  If he is up to it, he will want to get his affairs in order.   Try to keep the stress level down while this is happening.  Take breaks.  Don't try to do everything at once. 

And again, accept help.   There will be days when you just want to sit and do nothing.  Phone a neighbour or the church and ask if a hot meal can be dropped off.   Let Rachel's school know.   They need to know that she is going through a stressful time at home.   Also let her friend's parents know - they may be able to invite her on play dates to allow you and Jim time alone, and to give her a break.

Try to find some peace.   Share your love.   

Hug each other.    Cry.  

(((((((Mists))))))))