I should add that they stayed in the hotel I called for them.   I got the info and then called my Aunt to book the room with her credit card.  I know the desk clerk at the hotel and discovered that they had stayed there. 

This just gives me a bad feeling.  Like I was used to help with the trip but then not good enough to be included.

What do you guys think?  How should I respond?

Let it go... 

Oh Serena.   I am truly sorry.  Your aunts were inconsiderate to say the least.   But Mike is right 'let it go'.

I've learned over the years that being like  'one of the family'  doesn't always mean that you are 'one of the family'.  

One of my aunts had a large family.  When I, a motherless teenager, would come to town for a visit, I was welcomed and seemed to fit right in.  Everybody seemed to think of me as one of the family.  I moved to another province and only got home once every couple of years.  I made a point of visiting my aunt.  Some of the younger kids still lived at home.  I gave the youngest girl my almost new bicycle (her mother wanted to pay me something but I refused - being family).  The others who lived nearby would come over and we seemed to settle into the old role of 'one big happy family'.   Then my aunt died, and shortly after I moved back to the province and settled in the city - thinking I would have lots of sister/cousins to help me and my family adjust.   Some of them called on us,  once - one of the younger ones invited us out to her home, once.   Weddings, parties, family get togethers happened (some informal potluck in the park affairs).  I would find out after the event.  Sometimes I would mention how hurt I was, only to have them say 'oh, we didn't think about you',  'We'll invite you next time.'  or 'we have so many cousins we couldn't include them all'  etc.    Sometimes I invited them to my house for special occasions - sometimes they came if they weren't doing anything else that day - but they never reciprocated.

Yes, it hurt.   Obviously 'like one of the family' meant something different to them than it did to me.  

Now I only see them at funerals - and with the older generation of the family mostly gone, there are fewer and fewer funerals.  This is a small city - sometimes I'll see them at the mall and we exchange 'hellos' and a hand wave. 

I am far closer to a cousin from another family, who I never was really close to as a child.  Now we find we have a lot in common (including often feeling on the outside).

I can see why you are upset.

it was rude and inconsiderate of them and not very family like

To have told ou they were coming and then to leave you out of the picture was uncalled for.

Sadly there is noting to do about it except let it go.

Don't include them in any future plans.

As-salaamu alaikum

-Omni

Nope.  They were complaining to me that they never get invited to their nephews/nieces and great nephews/nieces weddings etc.   I am guessing this would be why.  In fact this niece may be planning a wedding in a year or so.  I think the guest list just got a lot smaller.

yes they were inconsiderate and I agree with Mike let it go.