I think you've managed to torpedo yourself by being so negative 2 months in advance lol

so why can't you find someone ?  to start things off with , being bitter and angry  is not something that you just have for that one day of the year it seems ongoing ...

many holidays are superficial , we just had one a few days ago , where people pretend to enjoy the family that they moved so many miles to get away from ...... grrrrrrrrrr !!!!

I mean dude you could have shown your  pearly whites in the photo , you look like you just woke up , maybe try a goatee , some contacts I dunno , but you can only get what you are willing to give .....

No person, single or otherwise, should be made to feel like crap...

What makes you think that they all do ? did you know that the fastest growing family unit is a single person living alone ? so there are lots more of you out there , and everyone has been single at some point in their lives , it's not the end of the world if you get up , get ready and get out there and meet people surely you must have some social interests outside of church

I think a day for love should be every day of the year...

LOL sweetie when you fall in love and the years go by , things kinda mellow out ...... and it's still a bit of planning and prodding (i know this now but i didn't know it then)

In the end you gotta love you before you are fit to love anyone else .....

I think you might enjoy this .......http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/smoochie

Everybody has those kind of days in their lives unless you never experience loss. My sister, who can't have children, avoids family church services and mothers day, some people might never have had a Dad to look up to and feel sad on father's day, people who experienced loss of a family member are sad on Christmas.

I feel funny on Remberance Day, because of my German nationality, I feel I am somewhat "the enemy" amongst patriotic Canadians. But then I buy a poppy and wear it for ALL victims of the war, and think it is okay.

Valentines day is an occaision. You can celebrate love in general and surprise your great aunt with some flowers and with that spread some love, or you can use it as good reason to be depressed. So could the majority of people- all the ones that are single, widowed, in bad marriages,or the ones that didn't get any flowers or not enough. You can sing the single blues every time you see someone hold hand or kiss or when your neigbours seem so happily married.

My antidote to single blues is to listen to my co-workers talk about the problems in their marriages, watch Dr Phil or the news and ask me if I seriously would want to trade with my co-worker who looks so happily ever after in her marriage. So far, the answer has always been No. (I never wanted someone else's "perfect" kid traded in for my own either.).

by the way: Welcome to wondercafe, alivetoday, may you also be alive and well tomorrow.

I've tried a number of times to change my profile pic but it only takes that photo for some reason. I tried the jpeg stuff and it says changes accepted, but still goes back to the same freaking picture... oh well, I didn't come on this site to "meet" my special someone... I came on here to vent and debate and read others' stories of faith, etc. I've been in relationships before, hence why I get depressed and bitter... I do love myself, and am learning more about ME everyday... I don't know, sometimes I like to crawl into my cave and isolate and say to heck with what people think of me...

By the way, that albino site was pretty cool... I'll have to post that to my facebook one day...lol... thanks for the comments

Is there no one whom you love? No parents? No brothers and sisters? No friends? You can use February 14th as a special day to show them your love.

How about using the day to show love to people in the world in general. Do some volunteer work for the charity of your choice.

Valentines day is not about that kind of love... yes I love my parents, my cat, my friends, etc...ask walmart what Valentines day is all about: "$$$$$"....that's right... I don't need a superficial holiday to show my parents that I love them... I show it by my loving actions on other days..

Valentines day has become about cupid's arrows, sex, "eros" love, not agape love... giving chocolates and flowers to your spouse or lover...single people are shoved aside to make way for the lovers...

This valentines day, maybe I will volunteer... it will be my holiday for God's love, not the commercial, superficial holiday of false love... on that day I can't even go sing karaoke because the bar will be bombarded with valentines themes... the past knives in my back have made me this way, maybe someday I can have a normal "Feb. 14th" without feeling like crap

I hate Valentines day always have and I always will.  I was the kid in class who got only one Valentine and it was always from the teacher.  This was in the days before teachers gave out class lists and everyone got a valentine.  High school was just as bad.  I think Valentines day should be banned from all schools.

Back in high school, I got one candy cane and a message in grade 12...from a "secret admirer"... turned out to be from a girl who would become my worst nightmare years later...lol... slight exageration, but I met the author of that note last year and things didn't end in the most pleasant way...

In bible college I think I got a valentines day candy and message from a girl who said "Jesus Loves You"... I already know that, i don't don't need this crap about "love" holiday... I think we should organize a boycott of VD...lol...

I do like Mrs. Anteaters points. I've celebrated the last 9/10 Valentine's day without a "special romantic partner" (1/10 I had  a love interest).

Sometimes my kids and I join friends and get a heart shaped pizza from Boston pizza. Sometimes I mak a heart shaped cake. We celebrate all the love we have in our lives.

Someimes we wear shirts with hears and cupids on them.

Whatever we do we make it fun.

We dropped off some specail valentine pencils at friends and neighbours once.

Feb. 14 can be what you make it.

Perhaps you could organize an event for those not "in love" that day. Potluck Dinner? movie? An alternative celebration of love and goodness.

I like those boston pizza hearts... they're delicious... maybe I'll organize an event for single people who feel intimidated by Valentines Day

I'm no fan of Valentine's Day either.  I think it's another poor excuse to sell a lot of crap and exploit people at a vulnerable time. 

I have no interest in cheesy cards, roses grown in pesticide-laden farms in Argentina, cheap heart-shaped boxes of chocolates, edible panties, blood diamonds and the pressure that prompts this frenzy.

The most touching thing to me is to be heard. 

Any evidence of that is incredibly romantic. 

(Wouldn't hurt to order in pizza too.)

Gosh now i feel absolutely rotten that i got all those valentines in school , but seriously where are those guys today , i don't even know and why even care , when we spend time moping about the past , something good always passes us by ......

edible panties          Speaka for yourselfa

Don't forget there are tons of shallow women just like me , who love to get gifts however cheesy and hmmmmm if you got roses grown in chemicals , this could be love .........

The most touching thing to me , is when a guy realizes that I'm the centre of the universe and everything revolves around me darnnittt !!!!!

Somebody had better tell Hallmark that then. They make valentines for all kinds of relationships, not just romantic ones.

Of course hallmark makes those kind of cards... how else would they make money? but I digress....

I love Valentines day!!

Every year my mom, my brother & I go and binge on gigantic brownie sundaes with oreos and marshmellows and other wonderful things. Then we dig in and talk about how happy we are to be alone. It's all perspective. It's a happy time if you make it.

I don't even want to have a boyfriend for Valetine's day. It's like a family tradition to be single and eat ice cream.

Actually, given the b.s. relationship I had last year, I realize that being single is a blessing, not a curse... maybe I will volunteer on VD (kind of an odd acronymn...lol)... Maybe I'll go to a karaoke bar and sing songs like "she f*&!ing hates me...."...lol... or the classic "what is love..? baby don't hurt me... don't hurt me....no more..." lol...

I should make a tradition for valentines day where I stuff myself full of ice cream...

I don't know, I mean, I know it's a day of "love" and that "love" can be expressed to all people regardless of relation... but I dislike how superficial it has become... being single is not a curse, but it sure feels like it on Feb. 14th...lol...

But thanks, your comments made me laugh, so now I don't have be completely depressed...take care

You're welcome. 

 gigantic brownie sundaes with oreos and marshmellows and other wonderful things.

Damn straight

And to the wonderful things that can be done with them hehehe

 <---------- plays wicked games

Actually, given the b.s. relationship I had last year

Well now you are just in time for a brand new year ,decide what you want to bring into that new year , and what you wish to leave behind ......

You wrote on your profile that you are going to be a minister.  This must mean that you attend Church.  Church is where all the single women hang out and their parents.   In no time their parents will think that you are a nice Church boy and be inviting you over for supper when their single, spinster daughters are home.  There are no single men in Church so you will have no competition,

Where are you going through the discernment process?  I might know some single women in Alberta......

hmmmm.... intriguing, I'm doing the process in Saskatchewan... I'll wait till your albertan friends move to saskatchewan (there seems to be a migration our way from Alberta...lol)...

     anyways, no single ladies my age range that I know of in my church.... we'll see... lol... but your post cheered me up so thanks...

Right. However, it demonstrates that valentine's day is whatever you choose to make of it. You can very well use it as a day to celebrate the love you have for any and every relationship that you're in. Or for humanity in general.

Kinst wrote:

I don't even want to have a boyfriend for Valetine's day. It's like a family tradition to be single and eat ice cream.

If you really love ice cream, my friend, do stay single. I've found it amazingly difficult to get any of the stuff after getting married.

Hmmm you can't actually date anyone in your congragation anyhow.

I do have a single wonderfriend in Alberta- She likes animals. likes kids, is musical, sings,

goes for walks,

let me know if you want an introduction!

Huh? Why not? Of course you can. Many couples have met at church.

Single people go to church to meet their special someone... anyways, i'm quite sure Saskatchewan is my home... at least for a while.

Some do, that's true. Others go to worship God.

And a great number go to do both those things.

I try to avoid all the commercial aspects of all the 'special days' as much as I can.  I make my own individualised cards (so Hallmark will never get rich on my spending).  I make most of the gifts I give on the 'special days' I choose to remember. 

I don't think Valentine's Day is any better, or worse than the other Hallmark driven spending days.  When single - just ignore it - or treat yourself if you feel so inclined.  Same with Secretarys Day, Teachers Day, St Patrick's Day etc...

If it means something to you then do some celebrating that suits you,  if not let it fly by like a missed deadline.

Single people go to church to meet their special someone... anyways, i'm quite sure Saskatchewan is my home... at least for a while.

Unless of course you happen to be the adventurous type you can seek someone outside of those confinements .....sometimes opposites attract.

I never really got the point of Valentines Day (and i still don't). My wife and I do not celebrate it. If we have to set aside a special day to tell somebody we love them....then we are a more screwed up society then I thought. And DO NOT even get me started on Family Day.

when I was in public school, I never got Valentines Day cards from anybody and I never handed any out either. It did not bother me at all. I actually prefered if nobody approached my desk in the first place...at ANY time.

If you really want to show somebody how much you love them...tell them, show them. Don't wait for Hallmark's Day to do what should be done EVERY day of the year.

it's interesting how an incident from childhood colors people's entire lives

Don't forget about widows and widowers. We go to church to meet people too.

Also Valentine Day sucks twice as bad for us then it does for other singles. I mean not only are we alone as well, but we have to deal with being reminded of what we lost.

Thanks for reminding me of the horrors of the Valentine Day Card ritual in elementary school. Grade 4 was brutaI.

((((((((Alex)))))))))). I hear ya bro, I hear ya.

More like, many, many, many, many, many, many, many incidents, and not just empty Valentine's Day card envelopes either.

For those of us who have had enough of the death grip Hallmark has had on society......a song

Cupid's Dead, by Extreme (yep, that Extreme).

The elementry and high school rituals of Valentines Day were excruciating... they probably are what caused my disdain for that halmark holiday... Businesses salivate at the thought of valentines day because it is such a huge marketing holiday... no different than other holidays I suppose, but Singles Awareness Day is the best way to describe it.

((((((((((((((((     ))))))))))))))))))

Group hug!

I am still not thrilled with Valentine's Day. I remember times of feeling sorry for myself when I was single. Now, it just seems so commercial.

alivetoday, I like your new avatar.

My smoochie cartoon beats your extreme video any day of the week lol

did ya see it ?

cmon ur gonna laff

http://www.albinoblacksheep.com/flash/smoochie

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alivetoday, I like your new avatar.

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Thanks! It's a grad photo from this year

Yes much better now i don't have to smack you with some licorice sticks

A good friend of mine met his true love while he was here in Toronto and she was living in the Philippines. Distance need not stop the heart.

True otherwise mail order brides would be outta luck

I always think of Valentine's Day as Cheap Chocolate Eve  .

It's a good photo. Humm, a University grad, single and you like philosophy and theology and you understand what it is like to have ADD.

I think that the popularity of Valentines Day was originally as a day for courting a prospective mate, hence the marketing of products with themes of erotic love.

Valentine Day can be depressing for some of us, but that is not as bad as it is/was for Larry King and his family.

A couple of years ago, Larry King, a 15 year old new to courting rituals asked another 8 grader to be his Valentine.

His Valentine was so upset and insulted that he went home and got his fathers gun and shot Larry in the head. Larry died February 14th 2008.

 Larry King

This Valentines Day I am spending with my husband and it will be our first as husband and wife.

We have all had our share of alone Valentines' Days.   I think that it is best to stay in and read a book or something because if you go out you will look at all the couples.  Unless of course you have a positive attitude and start looking for a date.  That would probably be the best.

I am interested in all of that including the whip cream.  

http://www.newsweek.com/id/228041

As they say it's all about attitude

Single and loving it ....... read on

Alex:

I was actually born in ottawa.... but I'm not sure I'm a church planter. Never say never, of course, but saskatchewan keeps me happy