Fear -- insecure men resort to violence to run from their fears of uncertainty, change and inadequacy.
SG
Posted on: 04/04/2012 19:15
10% is not as high as it likely is. . I bet it is higher and I bet it is that way across Canada. No, it is not a mindset people bring from other cultures. I mean, certainly they can and do, but there is enough here already.
It is 16% in the US, according to a new report, "Progress of the World's Women". In the USA, 16 percent of men and women agree that it is sometimes justifiable for a man to beat his wife.
If you look at how many people are battered in this country, someone has to think it is ok. StatsCan (2009) says 6% of Canadians with a current or former spouse reported being physically or sexually victimized by their spouse in the 5 years preceding the survey.
Domestic violence is about power and control.
As long as society pretends batterers are all out-of-control barbarians, violent and virulent, drunk... we do not get to the core issues. They are your ministers, your cops, your teachers... the sweet person who would never hurt a fly.
As long as we, as a society, teach children to be strong and not cry, we are asking for that emotion to come out in other ways as adults. People grow up seething with distressing emotions and out of control anger or a need to control or exert power.
They feel insecure and become emotionally dependent and expect someone to be responsible for making them happy. When they cannot make them happy, they are "letting them down." They deserve it. They had it coming.
We teach people power and control are the ways to get your own way.
They have pent up anger.
They are showing someone who is boss.
They want to teach a lesson, get revenge
Violence is accepted as a proper method for solving problems or enforcing the rules.
Whether it is our politics, our parenting styles, our penal system... our culture perpetuates violence as a method of displaying power and a way to control others.
We do not have to teach it in the home, the world teaches it.
Comments
chemgal
Posted on: 03/13/2012 20:37
I wonder what the response of the same men would be if the question was reversed.
chemgal
Posted on: 03/14/2012 01:45
I wonder what these women did to 'deserve' having an unknown chemical thrown at them:
http://edmonton.ctv.ca/servlet/an/local/CTVNews/20120313/EDM_chemattack_120313/20120313/?hub=EdmontonHome
Jim Kenney
Posted on: 04/04/2012 10:41
Fear -- insecure men resort to violence to run from their fears of uncertainty, change and inadequacy.
SG
Posted on: 04/04/2012 19:15
10% is not as high as it likely is. . I bet it is higher and I bet it is that way across Canada. No, it is not a mindset people bring from other cultures. I mean, certainly they can and do, but there is enough here already.
It is 16% in the US, according to a new report, "Progress of the World's Women". In the USA, 16 percent of men and women agree that it is sometimes justifiable for a man to beat his wife.
If you look at how many people are battered in this country, someone has to think it is ok. StatsCan (2009) says 6% of Canadians with a current or former spouse reported being physically or sexually victimized by their spouse in the 5 years preceding the survey.
Domestic violence is about power and control.
As long as society pretends batterers are all out-of-control barbarians, violent and virulent, drunk... we do not get to the core issues. They are your ministers, your cops, your teachers... the sweet person who would never hurt a fly.
As long as we, as a society, teach children to be strong and not cry, we are asking for that emotion to come out in other ways as adults. People grow up seething with distressing emotions and out of control anger or a need to control or exert power.
They feel insecure and become emotionally dependent and expect someone to be responsible for making them happy. When they cannot make them happy, they are "letting them down." They deserve it. They had it coming.
We teach people power and control are the ways to get your own way.
They have pent up anger.
They are showing someone who is boss.
They want to teach a lesson, get revenge
Violence is accepted as a proper method for solving problems or enforcing the rules.
Whether it is our politics, our parenting styles, our penal system... our culture perpetuates violence as a method of displaying power and a way to control others.
We do not have to teach it in the home, the world teaches it.