I'm so sorry to hear that.  I'll be thinking of her...cms

Greetings!

That's a tough one, musicsooths - saying a prayer for her right now.  And a prayer for you as you try to encourage and support her with mothering love.

Hope, peace, joy, love  ...

Sooo sorry this as happened musicsooths after all the challenges you have had. Your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

I'll be thinking of you.

Prayers for musicdaughter, and a hug for musicsooths.

It's sooooo hard to see our children struggle. I'm sorry that you're going through this and hope that things turn around quickly.

you and your daughter are in my tohughts

That sucks.  Will lift you all up in my prayers. 

Prayers from me, too.

Thank you to everyone who is praying. I am hoping that she will be able to brush this off and step forward. The problem is that jobs here are very scarce and as you know her past is rearing it's ugly head. Musicdaughter is trying very hard to turn around her life and one of her so called friend sabatoged her.

I am sorry musicsooths, when we all so optomistic about your daughters future and your relationship. I  will keep you all in my prayers.

Hard but valuable life lesson about "so called" friends ...  Hopefully she will hold her head high and keep moving in a positive direction for herself.

Thinking about you and your daughter musicsooths.

My thoughts are with you both. 

It was just over a year ago I was unemployed and things were looking bleak so out of sheer desperation I applied for anything and stumbled on the perfect job for me.

My sincerest hope that your daughter finds the same.  If I may suggest, she go for jobs that she would never dream of applying, she may be pleasantly surprised.

LB

For Yesterday is but a Dream,
And To-morrow is only a Vision;
But To-day well lived makes
Every Yesterday a Dream of Happiness,
And every Tomorrow a Vision of Hope.
Look well therefore to this Day!
Such is the Salutation of the Dawn!

Kalidasa

I know what it's like to be unemployed.  as I gear up to search the market in a couple of months I hope.  So my prayer will definitely be with her, especially if she is working so hard to change things around.  I sure that God will provide.  LB I hope I have the nerve to apply for jobs I might only dream of.

Smiles at Dogorious.

The thing to do when stepping outside the comfort zone of what you think you are qualified to do or have trained for, is to sit down and write out all your skills.  Don't just write out your job history skills - but the other things you do maybe for fun or as a volunteer.  Skills are skills and can be transferable.

So while I could tell myself that I'm just fooling around with quotes, photography and making videos - and some have implied that I am even slacking! - I have used all them in my current job to my advantage and even the big boys at Corporate have noticed.  That I can even use these skills is, of course, one reason I love this job, btw.

I once had the pleasure of being acquainted with a man who I swear had worked at every job going including picking pumpkins for Libby's. He had been on his own since he was 15 and worked to survive.  He got in at the ground floor of the computer industry, taught himself how to programme and when I met him he was considered one of the best; he was also seriously considering giving it up to go back to university something he'd never had the chance or the time to do.

The point of that example is to remember when job seeking that this is not a marriage - you are not stuck in the relationship for life.  Look at the jobs you are applying for as stepping stones - how will they add to that skill set. 

When I was looking for my first "real" job I applied at Sick Kids Radiology department.  I had no desire to work there nor any interest but I needed a job.  A year later I applied for an internal position in the Psychology department and found a department of people that were inspiring.  Seven years later I again found myself needing something Sick Kids couldn't offer - day care for my son - and took a job that, again, I had no interest in but it gave me what I needed.

There are only two reasons to work:  to have the money to do the things you love or to get paid for doing the things you love.  With a little luck, a lot of effort and even more confidence the latter will happen.

And just to add more to a too long story, that job I took after Sick Kids inadvertently introduced to me to the Internet long before it became part of the vernacular.  Once again something I was doing for fun ended up becoming a skill in the job market.  It expanded my computer skills, honed my writing skills and gave me access to a world wide network of people who were valuable resources that all added to my skill set.

Build your skills and your confidence will grow as well.  Don't turn down an offer that on the surface doesn't look appealing because you never know where it might take you.

LB

Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.     Veronica A. Shoffstall

Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.     Veronica A. Shoffstall

This is brilliant, LB, something we all need to hear and take to heart.  Not that flowers aren't nice, but flowers for oneself are a real treasure.

More prayers for M~daughter - mulling over the suggestions from everyone, maybe a weekend of reinvention would be good, magazine flipping for an ideal - jobs that look interesting, lifestyles that look good, interests & hobbies to inspire, a roadtrip out of town and time to talk, then the old "Parachute" plan - what are you good at, what do you want to do, what steps need to be taken,  - its a 4-square plan with you in the bottom left with existing skills/interests, and your ideal work in the top right - so - do you move upwards into your area of focus at the bottom and learn new skills, or sideways to something that teaches the right skills, and then up to your dream job?

True story - my sweetheart ran a disaster restoration company, years ago - doing fire & flood etc cleanup.  It was a crappy job, and good for young people willing to work hard.  So "Mark" started, a cool Fresh-Prince of Belair guy, with more charm than he knew what to do with.  He worked for a few years with us, getting knocked down a few pegs, making his mistakes and also his successes.  He was great.  One day, he looked past the sewer backups and sooty living rooms, and saw the industry he was in.  He saw that there were people making real, "Clean" money, big 'nice-clothes' money.  He started at college in the Insurance Adjustor program, and within a year or 2 was making more money than my sweetheart.  Good for him!!

It is hard to see outside of our circle, outside of our habits, outside of our shoddy self-confidence, but there are stars to reach for.

Thank you to everyone who has responded I will pass these along to Musicdaughter.