Hi All:
Sometime before Christmas I responded to a post made by Jennybeam who claimed that we had chased Serena away telling her that the claim was false and that Serena was dealing with a personal crisis.
I have been communicating with Serena on and off since then.
This evening I recieved another Wondermail from her and she has asked that I share some information with you.
The personal crisis involved a very sudden illness in her father which lead to a coma and then shortly after that to his death.
Serena's grief over the loss of her father is very deep and she is working on that grief to the best of her ability.
She has read all of the Wondermails sent to her but has no energy to respond to them personally.
She has not indicated when, or if, she will be returning to WonderCafe though I take comfort in the fact that she is still communicating with me and we have been discussing the event itself.
She doesn't want any of you to think that she is trying to blow you off or ignore you. She is not up to a lot of conversation at present.
She does want you to know that she appreciates your concern and your support.
I am encouraged to know that many have written her privately and let her know that she was in their thoughts and prayers.
Grace and peace to you.
John
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Comments
revjohn
Posted on: 01/28/2008 19:16
bumping for your edification.
DaisyJane
Posted on: 01/28/2008 19:21
Thank you for sharing this with us.
Serena, you are in my thoughts and prayers.
crazyheart
Posted on: 01/28/2008 19:29
Thank you John. I have been thinking of her daily.
PastryChef_Deb
Posted on: 01/28/2008 19:31
My deepest sympathies to you and your family Serena. Your in my prayers.
Blessings Deb
Wolfie
Posted on: 01/28/2008 19:35
*Grace and Peace Serena*
Please let us lift you up when you have no strength to lift yourself!
let us be your strength when you have no strength. Let you hold you when tears threaten to overwhelm you.
You are an important part of our Wonder Cafe Life. We are all with you in spirit and prayer when we can not be there physically for you!
*Prayerful supportive Loving Fellowship*
Wolfie
myst
Posted on: 01/28/2008 19:35
Revjohn thank you for letting us know.
Serena, I am sorry to hear this news of your father. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Take care of yourself.
ninjafaery
Posted on: 01/28/2008 19:46
Gentle thoughts for you, Serena, while you mourn the loss of your father.
Punkins
Posted on: 01/28/2008 20:13
I am so sorry to hear about your father Serena. My thoughts and prayers are with you during your time of grief. Remember all the good things about your father and take comfort in that. Take the time you need to mourn and then heal. And whenever you are ready to come back here, we will be here, greeting you with open arms and hugs.
somegirl
Posted on: 01/28/2008 20:17
I was wondering about Serena the other day. If you are reading I am so terribly sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that you are taking very good care of yourself in these hard times.
Somegirl
Beloved
Posted on: 01/28/2008 20:27
To Sererna;
I am sorry for your recent sudden loss of your father. May comfort, hope, and peace be yours during this difficult time for you and others that are mourning his loss. May encouraging, supporting, helpful people surround you and give care as you walk through this time of grief.
Prayers for
Hope, peace, joy, love in this time of sadness
Beloved
busymom
Posted on: 01/28/2008 20:48
Serena,
My sympathy to you at this sad time. No doubt you are struggling with this sudden loss of your dad. I hope that somehow you know how much we care and support you in your grief. When you are ready to return to wondercafe we will be here and happy to see you. These are difficult days, but please know that we are thinking of you, sending positive thoughts and prayers.
Peace and blessings to you
Smote
Posted on: 01/28/2008 20:56
Serena, I'm so sorry to hear about this. What a time this must be for you. I'm thinking of you and wish you peace of mind.
HoldenCaulfield
Posted on: 01/28/2008 21:28
Take care Serena, my thoughts are with you.
Holden
abpenny
Posted on: 01/28/2008 21:28
Hi revjohn...thanks for letting us know, and I am glad that you are there for Serena to talk when she can. My sympathies to you, Serena...a girl can feel so lost when her dad dies.
paradox3
Posted on: 01/28/2008 22:33
Thinking of you, Serena....P3
Vespagirl
Posted on: 01/28/2008 23:56
Serena
My thoughts are with you at this difficult time.
Trina
Boots
Posted on: 01/29/2008 00:41
Serena you have been in my thoughts a lot lately and now I know why.
God be with you and the rest of your family in this time of need and support.
realmseer
Posted on: 01/29/2008 01:15
I was wonder where you went to Serena and I am sad to hear why you have not been present. I will be thinking about you and you know that if you need another ear, that I am here for you. Take all the time you need. I will be sending you and the kids a mental group hug, a virtual tuck into bed for all and a watchful figure at the end of the bed to ensure good dreams and a restful sleep.
We are all with you.
Motheroffive
Posted on: 01/29/2008 01:49
I'm so sorry, Serena, to hear of the loss of your father. My thoughts will be with you, too.
LBmuskoka
Posted on: 01/29/2008 09:03
Hoping that the support of all of us can provide some small comfort at such a sad time.
MadMonk
Posted on: 01/29/2008 09:17
Remember to breathe.
sighsnootles
Posted on: 01/29/2008 09:50
my thoughts and prayers are with you, serena...
i am so sorry to hear of this.
take care of yourself.
StephenGordon
Posted on: 01/29/2008 13:44
Sorry to hear this update.
Peace
Stevie G
Pinga
Posted on: 01/29/2008 14:05
aah, serena...this just sucks....soo sorry.
life seemed to be on an upswing, with the kids, and well, you just seemed like you were having fun.
i am sorry that you have lost your dad. i hope you have good support locally.
peace.
...pss thanks for letting revjohn share with the community the specifics of your hurt. and, revjohn, thanks for doing so. Serena, I know we have disagreed on much over the year, but, we have also laughed and played in social...Maybe that is the miracle of wondercafe, the bonds that we do develop, the bridges that are built, ...and so, let me just pour you a virtual tea, and then sit quietly down honouring your loss and sharing your sorrow.
musicsooths
Posted on: 01/29/2008 15:22
Dearest Serena. I was so sorry to hear about he sudden death of your Dad. That is the hardest kind to deal with. My thoughts are with you. take all the time you need to grieve secure in the knowlegde that your Wondercafe family is here for you.
Blessings, Hugs and prayers from
Musicsooths
Birthstone
Posted on: 01/29/2008 15:31
prayers from me as well.
Thank you John for keeping up with her, and for sharing this sad news.
Serena - you are important to us here, and we wish you peace. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad.
qwerty
Posted on: 01/29/2008 15:38
I was only last night thinking that we hadn't seen Serena and that there must have been something in her life that had caused her participation to drop off. I, however, was hoping that it was something good and happy. I am sorry, indeed, to hear that the cause has been the illness and death of Serena's father. I know how much fathers mean to daughters and my heart goes out to her.
curlingmom
Posted on: 01/29/2008 16:24
Serena:
My thoughts and prayers are with you also at this very difficult time. We are a virtual community but our feelings, thoughts and prayers are very real. Please know that we are all thinking of you.
cjms
Posted on: 01/30/2008 17:13
Had sad. It is tough losing a parent at any age. Blessings...c
Diana
Posted on: 01/30/2008 22:05
I miss you Serena. You are in my prayers.
BethAnne
Posted on: 01/31/2008 15:04
Please pass along my sympathies to Serena. It is rough.
Faerenach
Posted on: 01/31/2008 16:15
Serena,
I don't have any great words of comfort or wisdom. But it isn't always about the words... sometimes it's enough to know there are a bunch of people who care for you.
Sympathies from the WonderCafe,
Farren
Maremf
Posted on: 01/31/2008 18:25
So sorry, Serena. I pray that God gives you the strength you need at this time.
Atheisto
Posted on: 02/01/2008 12:37
Come back soon, you're my fave fundy. Sorry to hear of your loss.
Serena
Posted on: 02/06/2008 15:37
Thanks for all your thoughts. This is a really difficult time for me.
Serena
Birthstone
Posted on: 02/08/2008 12:07
Hey - you were there! We're still thinking of you, and hope you are going ok. If not, who would be surprised? Maybe some more good thoughts and hugs from us might help a little?
Inukshuk
Posted on: 02/08/2008 13:52
~Serena~ as you struggle through your heartache I pray that you will find comfort and strength in the promises of Faith ~
busymom
Posted on: 02/08/2008 15:00
Still thinking of you serena. Thanks for letting us know that you're still here.
Big hug to you and your kids.
LBmuskoka
Posted on: 02/08/2008 15:13
Serena, glad to see you poking your head into WC again.
Be patient with yourself, grief takes time to lessen. Find the things that comfort you and hold on to them.
LB
Bereavement is a darkness impenetrable to the imagination of the unbereaved. Iris Murdoch, The Sacred and Profane Love Machine