Well Kappa all I can do is give you what I have found through personal experience. Two times now I have done the whole just be friends instead thing and actually I am still friends with them. It works and everything but the thing is it's going to hurt you guaranteed. You will always be looking for something else in that relationship and hoping for more.

I really would not worry about whether it is fair to him because he will probably be fine with it, I think what you really have to do it take a good look at yourself and see if you will be able to handle just being firends.

On the other hand though if you are friends with him he may get to know you better and feel more comfortable with trying the dating thing. I think it is worth keeping the lines of friendship open but you can decide how close of friends to be, I would not completely shut him out though.

Good Luck!

My advice is to just let him go and drift apart.  It seems harsh and sad but otherwise you will probably end up hurting yourself more.  You may also end up hurting a future partner.

Peace

Joel

Not wanting to hurt you, but, give it up.I know a gal that waited for a committment for 5 years - none, nada, zip.Your life will be so much more content and I am a firm believer in the old adage - If it is meant to be, it will.AND a long distance friendship usually peters out anyway.

 aaaarrrgh! I HATE when that happens!

Ok, my take is slightly different, but I'm wondering if it's because knows he's moving on that he isn 't able to invest much of himself in so short a time.

Sometimes I think we distance ourselves to avoid the inevitable pain of separation.  And yeah, probably not much you can do, or there might be more to it than is evident.  Anyway, as impossible as it sounds, please honour your love and realize you are now closer to knowing how to recognize your beloved when he arrives.

((hugs))

If he's "the right person at the wrong time" - then, and this is written in stone - he isn't the right person, okay?  You "fell in love" after two weeks - he didn't.  He realized you had become way more attached than he was, and he ran like hell.  Count your blessings - he tried to let you down easy and he didn't string you along.

Next time, don't be so quick to wear your heart on your sleeve.

Kappa while I agree with the warnings listed above, I am more in line with Ninjafaery.

Until you have the answers from this person, you will always wonder if it could have been.  You may not like the answers that end up being given but if you don't ask the questions now, you'll forever be asking yourself "why didn't I".

LB

Only when we are no longer afraid do we begin to live.    
Dorothy Thompson

I once shared a Christmas kiss with a married friend (I was too). The contact was electric and suprised both of us. We both knew there was a powerful attraction in a glance. We took a second to recover, then went on our separate ways.

We both knew the attraction existed, so we avoided being alone with each other. Eventually we drifted apart as our lives changed. Still there is a fondness. Just because you feel an attraction doesn't mean you have to let it control you.

two weeks is a very short time to be in love. 

I would step back, agree to keep in touch and let things die out.  Perhaps you are in love with being in love.  After two weeks you really don't know this person, you just know what you have seen.

Step back, have a cry and move on

Thanks for weighing in on this all. You have pretty much reflected back to me what I have thought myself in saner moments. Anyhow, it is getting easier not thinking about it ALL the time, and fortunately I have lots to be busy with.

I read my original post and feel kind of embarrassed for posting because it seems so naive and, well, lame, to think you really love someone that much after 2 weeks. Stupid hormones. Unfortunately I have a bit of a concealed romantic streak, so I think it's quite possible I just like the idea of being in love, especially since it doesn't happen very often (unrequited love is becoming something of a life-long pattern, but I REFUSE to get jaded). It's not that I have been in many relationships where the feelings weren't mutual, but that I was too shy to start them, so at least that seems to be improving.

I also think you a bit foolish, but also very brave. Hang in there, maybe there's hope for us romantics. At least he didn't string you along, proud of him too!

Kappa,

What everyone said is true, but I also don't want you think that love at first sight can't happen. Just watch the ending of When Sally Met Harry - those couples that met knew, where seperated and found each other later in  life.  It does happen.

Who knows this guy may feel the same about you but is afraid of getting involved, from experience, or simply knowing he is moving. He is garded as he should be for himselve and he was kind to you to set the stage. Don't close the door leave it open.  Who knows what the future will bring, just keep an open mind.

The good news is you learned something about yourself.

Have a great day and don't forget to smile

Thanks for taking me down memory lane! When I was married I remember sharing a Christmas kiss with a work colleague. There was a mutual attraction, but like you said, it doesn't mean you have to let it control you. I realised that it was more important to me not to hurt my husband's feelings, than to satisfy my lust. (I guess that's what love is.)

Hi Kappa,

A similar exerience actually just happened to me earlier this year. I met a girl who I fell in love with after only knowing her for a week. She was already in a relationship though, but our mutual friend who introduced us told me that her and her boyfriend hadn't spent any time together in months. He ended up convincing her to break up with him (for me) and they did but it was mutual so it wasn't completely evil. I knew that she would need time to get over it before I could actually start a relationship with her but I thought that since their relationship was pretty inert anyway that I really didn't have to wait. Well, that was very naive of me and she ended up realizing that she didn't want to be in a relationship the day after our first kiss and that was pretty devastating for me. I was depressed for a whole month. I'm over it now and we are still good friends but it did take time for me to lose my feelings for her and I don't think they are completely gone yet. Being away from each other over the summer definitely helped.

That was my first and only romantic experience and now I'm addicted, but I live in a town with nothing to do so it will be pretty much impossible for me to meet people until school starts again. Love is so wonderful eh?

(((killer_rabbit)))

Thanks for posting and sharing! Just to know that you went through this recently is a huge help.

I know what you mean about addiction. But I have decided I will get in touch with him in about a week and ask if he wants to start coming to the trivia nights at our local watering hole, because he likes trivia. Then I get to see him and he doesn't have to be scared of a relationship. I would not want to hurt him or make him feel he was being manipulated at all. Also I will get a feeling for whether I'll be able to spend time with him as "just friends", or if it won't work.

Kappa this sounds like a good plan both for you and him. This way you can both spend time getting to know each other better and see where it goes from there.

I just recently got at boyfriend who is ten years older than me.. I am 18 he is 28. It's weird cause i needed time alone cuz I am one of those people who always has someone and when I least expected it he came into my life. He respects me so much and we have amazing discussions about God and what life is ment to be like. I am just so consumed about his age and the thought of my parents and others when they find out cuz its such a big difference. He has his life already while i am starting college next year! What do you think about this? 

@ SRM:  I think you should go slow...  I think you should finish college and not succumb to the temptation to drop out and marry him.  Have a degree in your back pocket - at some point, you'll probably need it.

Mostly, I think you should ask yourself why you feel the need to ask a bunch of strangers what they think about "this."  I'm not saying it's wrong to ask; I'm just thinking that maybe you don't feel as confident about "this" as you sound.