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Does your community support and value families with young children?

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cate

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The community I live in is relatively affluent, lots of parks, playgrounds, community centres, schools, playgroups, activities, family restaurants, the mall has an indoor play area.

But I voted "not really" to the question of whether my community supports and values families with young children because 15 minutes away in the core area, live thousands of very poor, struggling families, almost no parks or playgrounds, the Mayor is moving full steam ahead on amalgamating community centres so we have 5 giant ones instead of 50 smaller ones which means families in those communities will have to find a way to get to the big centres which are no longer walking distance from their homes, the mall in the core area has no play area for kids, and there are almost no playgroups or support groups for parents of small kids considering how many poor families live in that neighbourhood.

On the whole, my community does not support THOSE families with young children. On the whole, they don't want their tax dollars going to support them, they voted for the Mayor who's shutting down community centres which will have the greatest impact on poor families, not affluent ones. They also voted federally for the Conservatives who quashed the most significant and progressive advancement for families with young children - the national childcare strategy.

There are definitely people in my community who support families with young children from all socio-economic angles, but on the whole, my community is more concerned with their OWN children, and once they are looked after, they focus on their landscaping and the size of their RV compared to the one parked in the neighbour's driveway.

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I think we all have various ideas of value, espically when it comes to children. I live in a neighbourhood with many children in low income non-working families. These children are seen more as a paycheck from the government rather than a joy to the family. I am constantly struggling with my seven year old daughter in gettting her to understand that I have rules for her because I care, she does her homework regularily because I value intelligence and the thought that she will surpass any educational pursuits that we, as her parents have accomplished. ON the other hand she sees children in her age group (in all hours of the day and night) running around outside and their parents in their homes occupying themselves with other tasks and not engaging in any play or structure with their children.
I guess to answer your question: yes this community supports and values young children because these little guys take run of the whole neighbourhood with no supervision and no one complains.

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I feel my community supports families with young children. There are playgrounds, and municipal dollars go to funding summer programs for children. Every year we run the "school's cool" program, a school readiness program for children about to enter JK. (And the program's paid with tax dollars.)
I feel my community is supportive, but I wish our local churches were also supportive. At my local church, I wish the Session would serve communion in the nursery to the adults and children that are there. I'm actually on the Session, and I brought the issue up at a meeting four years ago. We all agreed it was a good idea for an elder to take communion down to the nursery, and yet in four years, it's never happened.
Listen to this story about a high chair. Three years ago, our church bought two highchairs and put them in the nursery. However, we really need to have at least one highchair upstairs in the dining hall. That way, parents with infants could enjoy coffee hour after the service, as well as any of the potluck luncheons that we have from time to time. My husband used to carry a highchair up two flights of stairs from the nursery to the hall every Sunday. We seated our son in it during coffee hour, and then we left the chair in the hall, hoping that it would still be there next Sunday. We would return to church the next week, and find that the highchair had been carried down two flights of stairs back to the nursery. How long did this go on? About three years, until my son was too old for a highchair, and we stopped carrying it up.
It became an obssession with me. I was determined to have a highchair in the dining hall of my church. I wanted other young families to see it as a sign that they were welcome there. But for some reason, people at my church felt that a highchair was an unsightly thing to have in the dining hall. Someone would carry it down every single Sunday for three years so it could be with the other highchairs in the nursery. There was one Sunday that we couldn't find the highchair at all: the UCW had tried to sell it in a rummage sale, but it didn't sell, and so it had been put in a storage room with some other "junk" to be discarded. Fortunately, we found it and rescued it.
But when a parent has to fight this hard to have a simple convenience like a highchair in church, I'm not surprised that there aren't more young families.
And then the members of Session all wonder why there aren't more young families in church? (!!!)

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The community my wife and I just moved to is very new. The houses are big but the lots are small. I think in order to make up for this the developers made a huge green space with a big park right in the middle of our survey. We go on walks and see many families with young children playing. When our adoption finally goes through (not long now), we plan to take our little girl to the park. We also live very close to 50 Point Conservation area so we plan to spend alot of time there as well. So I would have to say yes, our community does support and value families with young children.