ok, folks, I am making an appeal here...which may be off-line, and considered spam..but bear with me....

For years, folks who were gay were excluded from marraige.

For years, proms were a no-no

For years, the company Christmas party was a miss

and, yes, for years, competitions about my wonderful love, or our marriage, or our family, were only for a select group -- those of us who are married to those of the opposite sex.

alivetoday's "Valentine's Day (aka:  singles awareness day)" thread made me wonder if there are enough of us unpartnered here on the 'cafe to have a thread of our own to share our thoughts and to know we're not alone in a sea of couples.

It's not my intention at all to create a matchmaking thread, but simply a place to talk about our experiences and hopes for ourselves.

To begin with a few questions, I guess an obvious one is 'Are you looking or content for now"?

The UCC at the 30th General Council, 1984

Ok, so...it's been a year since my husband left...I have been on several dates and have met many gentleman...and some creeps...

It really bugs me when someone asks me, or takes it upon themselves to think, that I'm not ready to move on...so I ask you all, is there a 'normal' time frame that passes before a new relationship can begin? I have realized, I am relational...I am not interested in 'dating' a bunch of guys and I can tell very quickly if there is an attraction...

At the risk of reopening an issue...

One of the excuses that homophobes use in their fight to deny people the right to marry, is the lame duck defence of "traditional marriage". Here is an interesting article that debunks that foolishness with some solid historical and theological research.

From:

http://www.colfaxrecord.com/detail/91429.html

Reprinted:

http://www.jinxiboo.com/blog/2009/5/3/when-same-sex-marriage-was-a-chris...

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I'm wondering what the definition of "marriage" is to everyone else.

Marriage, to me, is a committed union between two people that is agreed to by both persons (regardless of gender), brought to God with an honest and loving heart, and blessed by Him.

 I need help so its a good opportunity for a positive disscussion.

I want to meet guys interested in a long term relationship, possibly leading to marriage.

I know this seems curious that I am asking for help, but I face several barriers I have to overcome to do so.

First I am just learning how to socialise after discovering how being a person with a form of high functioning autism is percived by others.

Hi.  I'm Thia.  This is my first post.

I was wondering if in the United Church of Canada, if women must submit to their husbands.

This question is important to me.  I am a heterosexual female who has never been married because I don't want to give up the perfectly good brain that God gave me.

God has made me an inteligent, capable, beautiful woman.  He gave me a brain that I enjoy using very much.

 Can you tell me why this seems to be? 

(of course some would say Why are all the nice men married or gay?, or Why are all the Nice women married or straight/lesbian?0

I have to just let all this flow. if it doesn't make sense then its fine, I may be the only to truly understand it and like I said before wondercafe is the only place I can go to blog that no one knows me or can pass judgement on what I have to say. its just who I am and who I am is disappearing. I know my relationship isn't all that healthy, but it could be. its not physically abusive or anything like that but I am starting to feel like I am being somewhat controlled and somewhat lead in directions I don't know if I want to be in.